• Steve Friedman

Independence Resources for Adults with Down syndrome

Updated: Apr 30

It's never too early...or too late...to plan



Through the Beyond Down Syndrome blogs over the last 18 months, we've covered a wide variety of topics from what independence means to you to financial resources due you to residential living options for adults with Down syndrome. I encourage you to check out the articles here.



Gwendolyn helping plan her own independence!

Three principles have emerged:

  1. It's never too early...or too late...to plan: independence for our adults with Down syndrome takes a lot of preparation for your child and the family as well. It requires support, an open mindset, and plenty of resources. Even from day 1, there are steps families should take. But if you are like many families with adults with Down syndrome in their 40s and 50s, it is not too late to prepare. As a matter of fact, it's urgent to start the process now.

  2. Equal opportunity support: as with our other children, we need to have faith that our kids/adults with Down syndrome can grow, succeed, make mistakes, and flourish if we only give them a chance. We need to include them in future planning. We must ensure their environment is safe and secure. We also need to recognize that if we don't enable their independence, they will never find their true ceiling.

  3. Independence for all: this plan for independence is not just for our blossoming adults with Down syndrome. It is for the whole family - parents and siblings alike. After a bit of an adjustment period, most parents celebrate a job well done when their last kids leave the nest. This should include our kids with Down syndrome. When you reach this point, you have fostered independence and confidence, and you are enabling unprecedented growth and happiness in your child. It's time to celebrate and enjoy your own independence.

These are important principles, but they are not easy tenets to follow. It takes time, focus, effort, leaps of faith, and planning. During the past year, many of you have participated in our parent's survey to learn a bit more about your child with Down syndrome, your hopes and their dreams, your biggest concerns and their greatest joys.


Below are 8 findings and how they relate to the path ahead:

Most of these common hobbies may sound familiar. How can they now prepare to safely socialize outside the school framework?


Many teens and adults are learning valuable independent skills. How can we further prepare them for adult life - home skills, working, transportation, and security?

Almost 95% of our adults with Down syndrome live at home or with relatives...

...yet many families hope their adult with Down syndrome can live in a more independent community.

Many envision their child moving out in their 20s or 30s but what is most shocking is that nearly half haven't really thought about it! What is holding us back?


The single largest obstacle is the lack of guidance. There are hundreds of books to address the needs of babies, toddlers, and school-aged kids with Down syndrome, but parents struggle to find guidance for adulthood.

Besides guidance on the steps toward independence, the next largest obstacle is financial resources. However, there are a wide variety of public and private residential living options to consider. And we also must ensure we are receiving all the resources available to us as early as possible...

There is also a lack of a comprehensive list of resources available to people with Down syndrome and their families. Only 52% are either on waiting lists or actively receiving Medicaid Waiver program benefits. What is available? When should we apply? How can we apply?

The 21st century has unleashed huge opportunities for our kids with Down syndrome, from work to college to independent living. The opportunities are evolving rapidly, but the resources to understand and pursue options are not. Many parents just don't know the questions to ask or the first places to look. Families need answers and concise, reliable information.


Kissing Gwendolyn goodbye as she settles in to her new independent life!

As many readers know, this is a personal passion for me. Our daughter, Gwendolyn, finally achieved her dream of independence this fall at a fabulous residential living community. Now we want to pull together what we've learned along the way, broaden it to assist families across the nation, and provide that comprehensive guidebook.


We'll be researching and writing this guidebook in 2022 with planned publication on 03/21/2023!


In the meantime, I'll continue to share insights, answer your questions, and welcome your ideas in 2022, starting with a revamped website including easier-to-navigate articles and resources early in the year.


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